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Accusations & Asking Are 2 Different Things

Accusation is a charge or claim that someone has done something illegal or wrong. Ask is to say something in order to obtain an answer or some information. So be very clear in your mind when you want answers, the Absolute Truth or if you just need to be validated.


When a person is being accused they are already guilty and no matter what is said, it is a skilled way of questioning a persons motives to get the answers they already believe. The belief is an old event that is unresolved and an image of the mind or memory. It does not matter what is shared, the person who is bring accused is wrong, they have done it, they are guilty, they are labeled and they will be punished and humiliated.


Asking is a different energy, it comes from a place of curiosity, there is no end result, you are not trying to weasel a person into a corner to get the answers 'you think or believe' that happened. This comes from a place of wanting to ask a person a question or questions to have clarity in the mind. This comes from a place of respect and saying I am feeling insecure, I feel threatened by you and this is what I think is happening, can you help me clarify your part in this.


Anytime you are accused, you don't have to answer. If it is a place of humiliation you have every right to put a boundary down through blocking and disconnecting. You can ask the person to ask specific questions if you are wondering where it came from? Sometimes people come from the far left field and are making it up in their minds. So you can ask them if they have facts or evidence of this.


Many times you just have to walk away for your own sanity. In relationships where you are being attacked and accused, that is a very different story. It is about total safety, mind, body, spirit and emotions. Because once a bully, narcissist and evil minded person is on the hunt, they will break your spirit and hurt you to get their answers.


I know, I had been through so much trauma in being accused, that I will not tolerate it in my life now. When you have a gun being pointed at you, a knife held to your stomach, choked, pulled out of bed by your ankles, pulled around by your hair, called everything in the book and screamed at for 5 hours non stop on MANY occasions...you realize that you don't have to put up with anyone's else's bull shit once you are out of that life.


If you were to actually sit down and ask me, I could tell you how I walk and share with you what you need to heal in your life. Because I am the scape goat to your insecurity, past trauma and my light irritates what you have unresolved and the demons inside of you. Just remember everything you accuse a person of is showing your own skeletons. The accuser is ALWAYS the one who is doing the action or a past action that they have not faced, admitted, healed or forgiven themselves for. It exposes them, not the one who is accused.


Sharing with the greatest kindness, unconditional love, peace and unity,

Barbara M. Moreau

Angel who Dances on the Clouds & Mountain Stream




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