I am going to share a teaching about Breadcrumbing. It is the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal social signals in order to lure a romantic partner in without expending much effort.
I have heard this phrase many times through out the years and now know what it is and I have looked at it on both sides, where did I do and where was it done to me. And of course I look at myself so I can see what it feels like to be doing it and also what it is like to receive that teaching. And remember everything in life is a teaching and lesson, until we learn better and shift up our behaviors to be more honorable.
There is a lot of teachings behind this, so please read with great pleasure to get the whole story and greater understanding. Most times we learn human behaviors from the adults around us when we are growing up. We don't even have to be apart of the situation, we still ABSORB the teachings from people who are around us and all we have to do it see it, hear it or be around it and it is 'in us'. It is programmed in our subconscious and a belief that it is ok to do this.
When you understand what brain washing tactics are, you will learn about the punishment and reward system, it creates belief systems in our minds that lead us to belief many things based on human interactions. The reward part releases happy chemicals in the brain, the punishment part turns on the pain receptors on the brain. So when it constantly going on and off, it teaches a person what they can and cannot do. Instead of implementing healthy boundaries, human behaviors are emotionally manipulated to make their point.
The punishment part teaches a person that they are bad, they are unloved, they are unworthy, they are not safe, they are not secure, they are not enough and it affects their own internal world, self esteem, self confidence, security and safety. When a child receives punishment in silent treatment, being put into the room, being isolated, ignored it affects who they are today right into their relationships.
The reward part teaches a person that if I do what you want I am good, I am loved, I am worthy, they are safe, they are secure, they are enough and gives them a huge sigh of relief. When a child receives attention, praise, hearing sorry, and love is being shown, the child now has inner conflict, confusion and most times does not know what to do.
This affects who they choose as they get older, they will pick the same relationships, they will reflect everything they learned from mommy and daddy, aunts, uncles and all adults around them. Remember they absorbed the information like a sponge. So the brain is now engaged in a behavior and will attract people into their lives with the same traits.
The reward and punishment behavior causes an addiction on attention, kind of like "I need it to feel loved." It also causes a person to feel just like that child who was bring emotionally punished and neglected. So in an adult state they are acting like that child in their mind. Most have no clue they are regressing in age in their mind, how they think, respond and react. And they get emotionally attached FAST because they were trained to suck up to get love, attention and to just be accepted and loved.
When a person is breadcrumbing is also reacting from that same age they learned if from, it is an immature response, it is disrespectful to a persons time, it is hurtful to the persons brain and they don't even know it. When a person is in a immature state nothing matters to them but their own wants, needs and desires, as long as they get what they want-then they are done with you. It's almost like a spoiled and heartless behavior and on a level without awareness. Yes they still need healing or to expand their knowledge on human behaviors.
The person who is doing the breadcrumbing, will not be able to know exactly how the person on the receiving end feels until THEY GO THROUGH IT. They will meet someone they genuinely fall in love with and get the rug pulled out from them. It will devastate them and until they come to terms with all the people they have hurt, the hurt will remain. Healing is very important to admit what we have done to others when we are finally on the receiving end. To release that pain we have to go back and look at self-that is where healing happens is when we take full responsibility.
Learn from both sides, see the lessons from both sides and it will be easier to process and let go, because when you forgive yourself for hurting others, then it is easier to forgive those who hurt you. It's a circle, it comes back to teach you and that's it.
It is also important to rewire your own brain, so you can attract a person who is mature and ready to have adults conversations. Adults conversations end with, I am busy right now, can we talk later? I have to run out, how about we text later. thank you for the conversation, it was nice to hear from you, ttyl. Give some heartfelt closure, because when people like you, love you or are attracted to you will literally wait for your response. It is disrespectful to their time if there is no simple bye or ttyl.
I have shared this before to rewire your brain;
Cross Your Legs or Ankles
Say your Name 1st
Add "I have the great pleasure of"
Make your statement or new belief
See the picture in your mind
Take a DEEP breath, hold for 2 seconds and release it
*The statement needs to match the picture
For example "Barbara (your name) I have the great pleasure of having the healthiest relationship with myself, where I am safe, I am secure, where I have the most amazing and clear communication and state my wants, needs and desires with the most amazing, enjoyable and heartfelt expressions."
"Barbara, I am a grown, mature, gentle, reliable and responsive empowered woman, where my words are clear and my intentions are pure all with great pleasure."
Make it sound and FEEL amazing!!
And just be respectful of peoples time and effort. And be clear about you intentions so people don't get hurt.
Sharing from unconditional love, peace, unity and calmness,
Barbara M. Moreau
Angel Who Dances on the Clouds & Mountain Stream
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